1. Totally forgive and forget the past- The foundation for every marriage reconstruction begins with absolute and total forgiveness. In the Lord prayer, Jesus taught us...as we Forgive...(Ma. 6:12) Forgiveness is not optional. If you will not forgive other people, God cannot forgive you. Forgiveness is the key that unlock the door of resentment and loosens the handcuffs of hatred. Forgiveness is a
full pardon. Forgiveness is a fresh start. Forgiveness is another chance and a new beginning. Sooner or Later, you will fail, and you will need to be forgiven by someone. If you do not forgive others, God Himself will not forgive you.
2. The Husband Is The King, Priest And Prophet Of His Family- As king, he governs the family. As priest, he guide the family spiritually. As prophet, he guard his family and blesses his children and wife. I encourage every father, put your hands on the head of your child every day and bless that child. It does not have to be long, ceremoniously conducted prayer, but you should do it. Also bless your wife daily.
3. Realize That Submission In The Bible Means Mutual Submission- When Paul writes of submission in Ephesians 5:21, he says ''....submitting to one another in the fear of God.''Husband, you don't submit to your wife's leads, but you must submit to her needs. That means if she needs you to help her clean the kitchen, you do it. That means if she needs you to help her wash the dishes or to go shopping, you do it. Submission does not make a man the ''Hitler'' of the house. Submission means that he does have leadership, but he is a loving, compassionate leader who loves his wife as Christ loved the church and is willing to die for her in an instant to redeem her.
4. Eliminate The Absentee Father- Saint Paul writes in Ephesians 6:4, ''You, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord'' If you are an absentee father who has abandoned his children for a lover or a new wife, you are required by God in heaven to be a father to those children. you may have divorced your wife, but you never, ever divorce your children
5. Start Communicating Today- Communicate openly and honestly, if there is anything in your heart, soul, or mind that frustrates you in your marriage relationship toward your spouse, start talking about it today. Your emotions cannot be held in check year after year without exploding. Sooner or Later you must have a genuinely cathartic conversation with your mate, during which you explain the deepest secrets of your soul to your spouse with no holds barred. Only then will you have a successful marriage. Until then, your marriage has no emotional foundation for intimate, meaningful communication
6. Live In Sexual Freedom- In first Corinthians 7:4, Paul States, ''The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And like wise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does
7. Reverence For The Marriage Relationship - The Bible says, ''Husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved The church and gave himself for her.... Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so loved his own wife see that she respect her husband''(Eph.5:25,33). Can this marriage be saved? Only if you're willing to forgive completely and to begin anew. Any marriage can be saved if both parents are willing to practice total forgiveness.
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